You know…for a generation that calls itself the ‘information age’ babies and for the amount of progress we have made otherwise, there are way too many people out there who still do not seem to understand the concept of an ‘opinion’.
Oxford Dictionary’s top definition of an opinion:
A view or judgement formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge
So if i am going to do something and your view on it or judgement of it is extremely disagreeable, what would you think is the next question?
'What is the appropriate value to be placed on the given opinion'
and personally, especially given the qualifier that knowledge is not a necessary ingredient in the formulation of an opinion, i do not place much value on opinions unless i have a calculated interest in doing so.
example, i would not wear my favourite sweatpants to a firm’s networking event because as much as i want to, their opinion of me has great value and is also closely linked to my adhering to the appropriate dress code.
so the above is obvious and only a butt-headed rebel would disagree with it. the more problematic areas are those that concern friends and the value of friendship.
again this entire take on opinion is actually a matter of opinion (which is why i started with the qualifier ‘personally’ above) what do you think should be the value placed on the opinion of friends? how big an influence should it be to your decisions and actions?
Here’s my point:
just because you put your friends on a pedestal, does not mean there is an understood requirement for them to do so too. you may get around this problem by only befriending likeminded folk, but you have no right to look down upon those that do not have the same approach as you to friendship. that would make you supercilious, deluded and just a god awful person.
on the other side of the coin,
just because you do not care much about your friends opinions on your personal matters, does not mean you can start disrespecting their opinions altogether. account for them even if you don’t incorporate or internalise them, because if you don’t then you might as well be a rude acquaintance rather than a friend. this behaviour again makes you supercilious and arrogant, also dismissive. a simple ‘i hear you but I’m afraid…~~’ can be enough.
if one more person tries to impose their opinion on me, i will end up joining the stand-up comedy industry because their behaviour is actually. so. hilarious.